How we can help

Anxiety
Anxiety can show up in many ways; racing thoughts, tightness in your chest, overthinking, panic attacks, or a constant sense that something is wrong. It can affect your sleep, relationships, and ability to concentrate. We help you gently understand what's happening in your body and mind, explore the roots of your anxiety, and find strategies that support calm, clarity, and a sense of safety in your world again.

Depression
Depression can feel like a deep sadness, a heavy numbness, or a total lack of energy or motivation. You might feel stuck, disconnected, or like you're going through the motions but not really living. Therapy gives you space to feel seen and understood without judgement. We walk alongside you, helping you explore what's underneath and slowly begin to reconnect with hope, purpose, and meaning in a way that feels manageable and real.

Bipolar disorder
Bipolar disorder involves shifts in mood, energy, and focus, from intense highs to difficult lows. These changes can affect your sense of self, relationships, and stability in everyday life. Therapy offers you a steady, grounded space to reflect, understand your patterns, manage triggers, and explore how your experiences have shaped you. It can be a powerful tool alongside medical support and self-care strategies.

ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder)
ADHD can affect focus, organisation, memory, and emotional regulation. It often comes with feelings of frustration, shame, or being misunderstood, especially if you've only recently been diagnosed or are self-identifying. We support you in understanding how your brain works, unlearning harmful narratives, and building supportive routines and mindsets that work with (not against) you. Therapy can also help you process the impact ADHD has had on relationships, identity and self-esteem.

Post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
PTSD may follow a traumatic event or a long history of difficult experiences. You might feel constantly on edge, experience flashbacks or nightmares, or feel emotionally numb or disconnected. Therapy provides a trauma-informed space where you're always in control. We begin by helping your body feel safer, then explore your story with care and respect at a pace that feels right for you. You don't have to relive trauma to heal from it.

OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)
OCD can involve distressing thoughts (obsessions) and rituals or behaviours (compulsions) that feel like the only way to relieve anxiety. It's often misunderstood, and can carry shame, especially if the thoughts feel intrusive or 'irrational'. Therapy helps you understand the cycle of OCD, reduce the power of intrusive thoughts, and find ways to cope that feel kinder and less consuming. You are not your thoughts, and you're not alone.

Eating disorders
Eating disorders include a range of struggles with food, body image, and control, such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, or disordered eating patterns that don't fit a specific label. These struggles often relate to emotional pain, trauma, or a need for control. We offer a safe, compassionate space to explore what's beneath the behaviours, always with care, never with judgement. Therapy helps you reconnect with nourishment, self-worth, and a sense of peace in your relationship with your body and food.

Substance use
You might be using drugs or alcohol to cope, escape, numb emotions, or manage overwhelming situations. Over time, this can affect your mental health, relationships, and sense of self. Therapy doesn't force change, instead, it offers support, reflection, and tools at your own pace. Whether you want to reduce harm, understand what's driving the behaviour, or make long-term changes, we're here to support your next steps.

Personality disorders
You may have been given a diagnosis like Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or feel like your emotions and relationships are intense, confusing, or hard to manage. These labels can feel heavy or stigmatising, but behind them is often a history of deep emotional pain and early trauma. Therapy offers a consistent, trusting space to explore your experiences and begin to build emotional safety. We focus on helping you develop stability, process shame, and form more secure, fulfilling relationships with others and yourself.

Bereavement
Losing someone you love can turn your world upside down. You might feel waves of sadness, numbness, anger, guilt, or a deep sense of disconnection. There is no right way to grieve. We support you at your own pace, helping you process memories, find meaning, and rebuild your sense of self without the person who's gone in a way that honours your relationship and your needs.

Relationship loss
Whether through separation, divorce, estrangement, or a slow drifting apart, the loss of a relationship can be devastating. Even when the ending was necessary, it can still bring grief, confusion, and loneliness. Therapy helps you explore the impact of that relationship, make sense of the ending, and support you as you navigate healing and what comes next.

Loss of identity or role
You may be grieving a version of yourself, a career you left, a role you no longer hold, or a part of your identity that no longer fits. Changes in work, family roles, or health can shake who we thought we were. We hold space for you to reflect, honour what's been lost, and begin to reconnect with who you are now and who you're becoming.

Health loss and chronic illness
A sudden diagnosis, chronic illness, or physical limitation can bring a profound sense of grief, not just for your body, but for the plans and freedom you once had. Therapy offers a place to process frustration, sadness, and fear, and begin to rebuild a relationship with your body, your capacity, and your new reality without toxic positivity.

Loss in frontline and service roles
If you work in the military, emergency services, or healthcare, you may carry grief in complex, unspoken ways. The loss of a colleague, the weight of responsibility, or the trauma of what you've witnessed can leave you feeling detached, hyper-alert, or deeply burdened by survivor's guilt. You might have been told to 'get on with it', but grief doesn't disappear just because you've stayed strong for others. We understand the unique pressure of these roles, the unrelenting pace, the impact of high-stress environments, and how grief is often suppressed or silenced. Therapy offers a safe space to process the emotional weight you've been carrying, explore complex feelings of guilt or helplessness, and begin to heal in a way that honours your service, your losses, and your humanity.

Loss of safety or home
Experiencing trauma, abuse, neglect, or instability can leave you grieving something you never had; safety, home, or a childhood free from fear. We gently explore the impact of those experiences and help you create a felt sense of safety and belonging within yourself and in the world around you.

Future grief and ambiguous loss
Sometimes grief isn't clear-cut, you might be grieving something that hasn't happened yet, like a terminal diagnosis or anticipated loss. Or you may be facing ambiguous loss, such as a loved one with dementia, addiction, or emotional absence. We help you hold the complexity of these experiences without rushing, and support you to stay grounded while living alongside uncertainty.

Collective and environmental grief
You might be feeling a deep grief for the state of the world; climate anxiety, social injustice, political unrest, or a sense of collective loss. This is valid, and increasingly common. We offer a space to talk about it without minimisation or dismissal, to name the pain, connect with meaning, and explore ways to go forward.

Play and creative therapy
Creative therapies allow children to express and process emotions through metaphor, imagination and action, rather than direct conversation. This is particularly helpful for children who may not yet have the words for their inner experiences. Art, storytelling, movement or roleplay can reveal emotional themes, reduce internal tension and increase self-awareness. Through the therapeutic relationship, children build trust, explore choices and develop more secure, flexible ways of relating to themselves and others.

Anxiety and behavioural support for children
Therapy helps children name and understand anxious feelings, identifying where they come from and how they show up in the body and behaviour. Children learn calming strategies such as breathing, grounding or using creative outlets. For behaviour that feels confusing or challenging, therapy offers a space to explore what the child is communicating through their actions and helps build skills for emotional expression, problem solving and relational repair.

Support for young carers
Young carers often hold adult responsibilities while managing school, friendships and their own development. Therapy gives them space to pause and focus on their own emotional world. It can help reduce stress, prevent burnout and strengthen identity beyond the caring role. By feeling heard and understood, young carers are better able to process difficult feelings like guilt, worry or resentment, and gain confidence in asking for support or setting boundaries.

Neurodiversity affirming support
Therapy can support neurodivergent children in understanding their unique strengths, preferences and challenges. Rather than encouraging masking or change, we help them develop strategies that honour their needs. This might include co-regulation techniques, sensory adjustments or advocating for themselves in school or relationships. Therapy also explores identity, supports self-acceptance and builds resilience against stigma or misunderstanding.

Academic stress
Therapy helps young people uncover and challenge unhelpful beliefs around success, perfectionism or failure. We explore the emotional impact of school demands and help them develop healthier coping strategies. This might include building a more compassionate internal voice, regulating stress responses or learning to prioritise wellbeing alongside academic goals. Therapy also supports self-worth beyond grades and external validation.

Life changes
Major life changes can leave children feeling unsafe, ungrounded or overwhelmed. Therapy supports them in understanding and expressing their emotional responses to change, whether sadness, fear, anger or confusion. We help build narratives that make sense of what is happening and identify sources of strength, consistency and support. This helps children rebuild a sense of control, belonging and hope during periods of transition.

Divorce or separation of parents
Therapy helps children process the emotional fallout of separation in an age appropriate, non blaming way. We support them in understanding that they are not responsible, even if they feel caught in the middle. Children can safely explore feelings of loyalty, sadness, anger or relief and develop ways to express their needs to parents or caregivers. Therapy strengthens emotional safety and helps preserve or rebuild key relationships through times of family change.

LGBTQIA+ Youth support
Therapy offers a supportive and validating space where LGBTQIA+ young people can explore their identity, feel affirmed in who they are and process experiences of stigma or exclusion. It helps build resilience, self-worth and confidence and provides emotional tools for navigating social dynamics, family reactions or internalised shame. Therapy can also support the development of language, boundaries and self-advocacy in environments that may not always be affirming.

Peer relationships and social challenges
Therapy helps children and young people navigate the complex world of friendships, social anxiety and peer pressure. It provides tools to understand social cues, manage relational conflict and build confidence in communication. Through guided reflection and roleplay, therapy supports the development of healthier boundaries, empathy and a stronger sense of belonging.

Support after bullying or online harm
Experiences of bullying or digital abuse can damage self-esteem, trust and emotional safety. Therapy supports recovery by creating a safe space to explore and express difficult feelings such as fear, shame or anger. It helps restore a sense of agency and teaches protective strategies, emotional regulation and self-compassion to prevent further harm and promote healing.

Support for fostered or adopted young people
Children and young people who have experienced foster care, adoption or disrupted attachment often carry complex emotional histories. Therapy provides a consistent, compassionate space to make sense of those experiences, build trust and work through feelings of abandonment, loss or confusion. Trauma informed approaches support emotional regulation, secure attachment and the development of a coherent personal narrative.

Couples counselling
Couples therapy offers a space to explore the challenges and patterns affecting your relationship. Whether you are dealing with communication issues, trust difficulties, conflict, disconnection or changes in intimacy, therapy helps both partners understand each other's needs and build stronger emotional connection. We support you in navigating difference, expressing vulnerability and rebuilding a shared sense of direction.

Attachment and relationship patterns
Your earliest relationships shape how you connect in adult life. Therapy helps explore how attachment styles such as avoidance, anxiety or fear of abandonment may show up in your partnerships. Together, we identify old patterns, understand their roots and work toward forming more secure, balanced and mutually respectful relationships.

Codependency
If you often lose yourself in relationships, struggle to set boundaries or feel overly responsible for others, therapy helps you reconnect with your own needs, values and voice. We gently explore the origins of codependency and support the development of autonomy, emotional safety and healthier interdependence.

Rebuilding trust after betrayal
Trust can be deeply damaged by experiences such as infidelity, secrecy or emotional betrayal. Therapy provides a space to work through the hurt, rebuild emotional honesty and decide what kind of relationship is possible going forward. Whether you are rebuilding together or processing the loss, we move at a pace that honours safety and clarity.

LGBTQIA+ Relationship support
We offer affirming, inclusive support for relationships within the LGBTQIA+ community. Therapy honours diverse identities, gender expressions, family structures and relationship models without judgment. We help you navigate connection, communication, stigma and external pressures while strengthening mutual care and authenticity.

Divorce and separation adjustment
Ending a relationship can bring grief, confusion, anger, guilt or even relief. Therapy supports individuals or couples as they move through this transition, helping you process emotions, make sense of the decision and begin to rebuild life after separation with clarity and emotional stability.

Communication skills and conflict resolution
Therapy supports the development of healthy communication by identifying unhelpful patterns like defensiveness, withdrawal or criticism. We offer tools for active listening, emotional expression and conflict resolution, helping you create a space where both people feel heard, respected and understood.

Non traditional relationship models
Whether you are in a polyamorous, open or non monogamous relationship, therapy offers support to navigate the unique challenges and strengths of these models. We focus on trust, communication, agreements, emotional regulation and managing jealousy or relational complexity in a space free from judgment or assumption.

Parenting and partnership dynamics
Parenting can place enormous strain on relationships. Therapy offers space for couples to reflect on how caregiving has affected their connection, identity, intimacy and emotional load. We help you work as a team, communicate needs and maintain a supportive partnership while parenting.

Relationship support for trauma survivors
If you carry trauma into your relationships, you may struggle with intimacy, trust or emotional regulation. Therapy gently helps you understand how trauma affects your relational responses and supports the building of safety, vulnerability and connection over time. Partners can also be supported in understanding how to navigate this journey with care and patience.

Autism affirming therapy
We provide a space where autistic identity is respected and celebrated, not pathologised. Therapy helps you explore emotional experiences, sensory needs and self understanding in ways that make sense for your neurotype. Together, we work on developing tools for regulation, navigating social dynamics and building a life that honours your strengths and values.

ADHD Emotional support
Living with ADHD often means managing overwhelm, emotional intensity, rejection sensitivity and burnout. Therapy can help you make sense of these experiences, build emotional tools that work with your brain and support self acceptance. We help reduce shame and pressure by focusing on compassion, creativity and structure that works for you.

Masking, burnout and self acceptance
Many neurodivergent individuals mask their traits to fit into neurotypical environments. Therapy helps you recognise the cost of masking, recover from burnout and reconnect with your authentic self. We support you in identifying what safety and sustainability look like and in rebuilding a life where you do not have to hide who you are to be accepted.

Navigating relationships as a neurodivergent person
Therapy supports you in understanding your relational style, sensory and communication needs and how these interact with others. We explore challenges in friendships, intimacy and connection in a way that is non judgemental and grounded in acceptance. Therapy can also support clearer communication and boundary setting in neurodivergent neurotypical relationships.

Support with diagnosis processing or identity
Receiving a diagnosis or realising you are neurodivergent later in life can be both validating and unsettling. Therapy helps you make sense of what this means for your past, present and future. We explore how this identity affects your relationships and self understanding and support you in integrating this knowledge with kindness and care.

Family support around neurodiversity
We support parents, siblings and partners in understanding and connecting with their neurodivergent loved one. Therapy offers insight into communication differences, sensory needs and emotional regulation, helping families move away from frustration or shame and toward empathy, acceptance and advocacy.

Neurodiversity affirming children's support
Children who are autistic, ADHD or otherwise neurodivergent benefit from therapy that celebrates difference and meets them where they are. We focus on emotional regulation, sensory safety and communication support while helping them understand and express themselves in ways that feel natural and empowering.

Support for late diagnosed adults
Being diagnosed or self identifying as neurodivergent later in life often brings a wave of reflection and emotion. Therapy provides space to grieve missed support, understand past experiences through a new lens and explore what it means to live more authentically moving forward.

Unmasking and living authentically
Therapy supports you in gently peeling back years of masking and discovering what feels true and sustainable for you. We go at your pace, working together to find spaces and relationships where your neurodivergence is not just accepted but welcomed.

Therapy for PDA profiles
For individuals with a PDA profile, therapy adapts to prioritise autonomy, safety and low demand approaches. We support communication, emotional distress and nervous system regulation through curiosity, consent and trust building. Therapy helps you feel safe in relationships and supports those around you in understanding what works and what does not.

Emotional support for those living with terminal illness
Therapy offers a compassionate space to explore the emotional weight of facing the end of life. Whether you are feeling fear, anger, sadness, peace or a mix of all, therapy supports you without trying to fix or rush anything. We help you reflect on your life, make meaning, strengthen relationships and find comfort in what matters most.

Therapy for loved ones and family members
Witnessing a loved one’s decline can be painful and disorienting. Therapy offers a space to process anticipatory grief, helplessness and the emotional toll of caregiving. We support you in staying emotionally present, setting boundaries and caring for yourself while walking alongside someone you love.

Anticipatory grief counselling
Grief often begins long before death occurs. Therapy helps name and process the deep and often hidden grief that comes with preparing to lose someone. We explore guilt, fear, hope and love without judgment, helping you remain emotionally connected while preparing to say goodbye.

Bereavement support after loss
After a death, therapy offers a non linear and compassionate space to process the impact of loss. We support you in navigating grief as it arises and in integrating that loss into your life in a way that honours your relationship and supports ongoing healing.

Support with medical trauma or hospice adjustment
Serious illness and end of life care can involve invasive treatments, difficult decisions and sudden changes. Therapy provides support in navigating the emotional impact of medical trauma, accepting palliative care and adapting to new realities with deep respect for your autonomy and lived experience.

Reflecting on your life and what matters most
As people face death, many feel a desire to reflect, express love and pass something meaningful on. Therapy supports legacy work through letters, rituals, memory projects or conversations, helping you create connection and meaning for yourself and those you love.

Support for young people facing parental illness
When a parent is dying, children and teens need space to make sense of what is happening in age appropriate and emotionally safe ways. Therapy helps them express fear, sadness, anger or guilt while building emotional tools to stay connected and find strength through an incredibly painful time.

Existential anxiety and fear of death
It is natural to wrestle with questions about meaning, mortality and what lies beyond. Therapy holds space for these conversations without rushing to provide answers or reassurance. We honour your beliefs, fears and need for honesty, helping you explore your relationship with life and death with as much safety and clarity as possible.

Burnout, stress and compassion fatigue support
Caring roles often involve giving so much of yourself that you forget to tend to your own needs. Therapy offers a space to rest emotionally, reflect on what you carry and begin to restore your energy. We help you recognise signs of burnout and compassion fatigue, understand what is driving your exhaustion and rebuild a connection to your purpose in a way that is sustainable.

Guilt and responsibility processing
Carers and frontline professionals often feel intense guilt or responsibility, even when things are beyond their control. Therapy helps you name these feelings, understand where they come from and find self forgiveness. We support you in learning to hold compassion for yourself while still showing up for others in a way that does not cost you your wellbeing.

Boundaries and resilience building
Without clear boundaries, caregiving can lead to emotional depletion or resentment. Therapy helps you set boundaries with confidence and care. We support you in identifying your limits, expressing your needs and creating emotional habits that build resilience over time.

Vicarious trauma and crisis exposure
When you witness or hear distressing stories day after day, it can take a toll. Therapy provides a place to process the emotional residue of vicarious trauma, allowing you to decompress and stay connected to your own feelings. We help you feel human again in the face of other people's pain.

Therapy for foster carers, nurses, social workers and mental health staff
Each of these roles carries its own challenges, ethical dilemmas and emotional burdens. We provide specialist support tailored to your role. Therapy becomes a place where you do not have to be the strong one.

Emotional support after workplace incidents or deaths
When incidents, unexpected deaths or traumatic events happen at work, you may be left with unresolved shock, grief or blame. Therapy helps you process what happened in a contained and compassionate way.

Identity loss and life beyond the caring role
Leaving a caring profession or stepping away from a role that once defined you can feel disorienting. Therapy supports you in exploring who you are beyond what you do. We help you process grief, rediscover identity and rebuild a life that includes but is not solely defined by your care for others.

Coping with suicidal thoughts (non emergency)
Therapy offers a non judgemental space where you can talk openly about suicidal thoughts without fear of alarm. We explore what the thoughts are communicating and how to find ways to stay safe while honouring your experience.

Safety planning and emotional grounding
Therapy helps you create a personalised safety plan that feels realistic and supportive. We build grounding practices and regulation techniques to support you in staying present.

Reducing shame around self harm
Therapy helps you understand what self harm means to you, explore safer alternatives and reduce the shame that often surrounds it. We support you with empathy, not judgment.

Tools for distress tolerance and regulation
Therapy helps you develop tools for managing emotional intensity, dissociation or sensory overload that are tailored to your nervous system and lived experience.

Support after a suicide attempt or bereavement
Whether you have survived a suicide attempt or lost someone to suicide, therapy helps you process grief, guilt, anger and confusion in a compassionate space.

Therapy for family members affected by suicide
Families affected by suicide often carry unspoken pain. Therapy supports loved ones through the emotional impact and helps them find connection and healing.

Navigating life after crisis
Therapy supports you in rebuilding life after a suicidal crisis. We focus on small steps, deep care and creating a future that does not require you to be in pain to be heard.

Finding kindness towards yourself and a way forward
Therapy helps you relate to yourself with kindness and reconnect with hope and purpose.

Baby loss and miscarriage grief counselling
The loss of a pregnancy or baby can be profound and isolating. Therapy provides space to grieve in your own time and way, without minimisation or pressure to move on. Whether the loss was early or late, expected or unexpected, we support you in making meaning of your experience, expressing grief, and holding space for complex emotions including love, guilt, sadness and hope.

Postpartum depression and anxiety
The early months of parenthood can be emotionally overwhelming. Therapy supports those experiencing low mood, panic, intrusive thoughts, exhaustion or a sense of disconnection. We explore the psychological and relational impact of this transition and help you develop compassionate strategies to feel safer, more present and more connected to your baby and yourself.

Birth trauma support
When a birth feels frightening, out of control or disempowering, it can leave a lasting emotional imprint. Therapy helps you process the events of your birth experience, including medical interventions, fear, or feeling unheard. We support you in reclaiming your story, reconnecting with your body and restoring a sense of emotional and physical safety.

Identity support for new parents
Becoming a parent can shift your sense of who you are. Therapy helps you navigate identity changes, feelings of loss, conflict, or new meaning. We support you in exploring the parts of yourself that feel unfamiliar or forgotten and help you integrate your role as a parent with your wider self.

Emotional support for NICU or premature birth
Parents of premature babies or those admitted to neonatal care often experience shock, helplessness, fear or trauma. Therapy provides a space to process this unexpected journey and the emotional toll of being in a high stress medical environment. We support your need for safety, clarity and emotional holding during a time of uncertainty and vulnerability.

Relationship support during parenting stress
Parenting can magnify stress, communication breakdown and emotional distance between partners. Therapy helps couples reconnect, speak openly, and re establish support within the relationship. We help you work as a team again, sharing the emotional and practical load while staying connected through the challenges of raising children.

Navigating parenthood after loss
Parenting after a previous loss can feel like walking a tightrope between grief and hope. Therapy supports you in holding space for both your grief and your current parenting experience. We explore fears, bonding challenges and emotional overwhelm, helping you find grounded ways to parent while honouring what has been lost.

Perinatal OCD, intrusive thoughts and guilt
Intrusive thoughts and compulsions are common but often hidden symptoms in the perinatal period. Therapy provides a space to explore these safely and without judgment. We help you understand what these thoughts mean, manage fear and distress and rebuild trust in your mind and actions with care and compassion.

Therapy for partners or co-parents
Partners also go through emotional and psychological shifts in pregnancy, birth and parenting. Therapy supports those who may feel overlooked or unsure how to cope with their own reactions. We provide space to talk about your experience, your fears, and your role, helping you feel confident and supported in this life stage.

Personality disorders and relational trauma
Therapy supports people living with intense emotional swings, chronic shame, fear of abandonment or relational disconnection. Rather than focusing on diagnostic labels, we offer long term, relationship based therapy that centres safety and trust. Together we explore early attachment wounds, unmet emotional needs and the protective strategies that may have helped you survive but now limit connection.

Dissociative disorders
For those who experience dissociation, memory loss, fragmentation or switching between parts of the self, therapy provides slow paced and stabilising support. We help you develop safety in the present, reduce overwhelm and gently build bridges between disconnected parts of your experience. Therapy respects the protective role of dissociation while supporting your desire for integration and wholeness.

Clients with a history of complex systems involvement
If you have moved through multiple systems such as care, social services, criminal justice or mental health, therapy can be a space to rebuild trust, stability and emotional continuity. We understand how systems can harm or neglect people and work relationally to support healing from that complexity. Therapy becomes a consistent place where you do not have to perform, explain or prove your worth.

Support for clients in recovery from substance misuse
Therapy offers a space to explore the emotional roots of addiction including trauma, disconnection, grief or shame. We support recovery not through judgment but through compassion and honesty, helping you develop a new relationship with yourself, your body and your emotions. Whether you are in early recovery or long term maintenance, therapy can be part of your healing journey.

High risk or multi agency supported clients
If you are involved with safeguarding, probation or other multi agency teams, therapy can be your emotional base. We collaborate transparently, prioritise your consent and help you build emotional regulation and stability. Therapy supports safety planning, relational repair and trust building when there may be many people involved in your care.

Therapy for those involved in the justice system
For individuals navigating custody, probation or community reintegration, therapy offers space to explore identity, trauma and responsibility. We help you make sense of your story, process past harm and begin to build a life that feels safer, more grounded and more hopeful.

Survivors of trafficking, exploitation or modern slavery
Therapy supports the slow and complex journey of recovery from coercion, control and abuse. We provide trauma informed care that centres on emotional safety, choice and empowerment. Therapy honours your dignity, builds internal safety and helps you process what happened without pressure or re-traumatisation.

Long term trauma therapy and stabilisation work
Some trauma cannot be rushed. We offer long term support for individuals who need consistency, deep relational trust and slow integration. Therapy focuses first on stabilisation, emotional regulation and nervous system safety before working through traumatic material. This work meets you where you are, without expectations or timelines.